Mooch Men

When you’re in a relationship with someone, you’re not really supposed to keep tabs on who spends what. Relationships generally mean equality. You buy the groceries; he takes you out to dinner. You pay for the airfare; he pays for the hotel. It all pretty much evens out. Right?

Well, I heard a story yesterday that was utterly appalling. An acquaintance of mine is just getting out of a relationship with her boyfriend of 3 ½ years. She moved back to California with plans to leave for Italy within the next few months to live her dream as an artist there. But she can’t go. In the last few weeks, she came to find out that several years of debt for furniture, moving expenses, house wares, dinners, etc. that were charged on a card under her name by her boyfriend have never been paid off. She’s $20K in debt and has nothing to show for it. He took care of the bills while they lived together. He assured her everything was fine. He’s on the fast track and makes a significant amount of money, so she didn’t believe she had anything to worry about. He now has a house full of really nice furniture (that rightfully belongs to her) and she has hideous credit. He won’t return her phone calls or her e-mails.

What. The. Fuck.

I just wanted to hug her. Granted, she should have been paying attention, but when you trust someone, sometimes you let things slide. The whole thing is just so completely pathetic to me. Men who live off the women they are dating are a pathetic waste of a penis. My ex used to pull that shit on me all the time. “Lend me $100 for my night out; I’ll pay you back on Thursday when I get paid.” Thursday rolls around…no re-payment. A month goes by, no repayment. Two months go by and he says, “What $100? Hey, can I borrow $200 for my trip up to see my parents?” Good thing for me, I stopped lending him money very quickly as this became a trend. I never let him touch my credit cards or know anything about my personal finances.

Shitty that it had to be that way, but how is a mooch ever going to learn unless he’s taught some responsibility cold turkey? If he doesn’t learn, ditch him. You’ll have a much more secure future on your own.